There used to be kids, teenagers and adults….and now the term "tween" is used to describe the "between" years, the kids aged 8 to 12 years before the official teenager status at 13. This can be a wildly exciting and tumultuous time of life for you and your 'tween. So what's it like to be a 10 year old in Bahrain?
Well, here’s another new exciting launch of a segment that will allow you to view the world through their very eyes and perspective. They are in the driver’s seat and they will tell the tale as it is. This week:
Let us Grow Up!
This month I was fortunate to travel to Switzerland with 49 other students to learn to snow ski. For many of us it was the first time we had seen snow, or mountains or tried to ski. The scenery was breath-taking and something I will remember for a lifetime. Our parents had sent us all with the correct gear for being in the snow and we were all so excited to finally arrive after three plane rides, 4 countries and a 2 and a half hour bus ride. We trudged through the snow dragging our cases to the chalets and I remember feeling so pained that my four year old brother wasn't with me.
What became obvious very quickly is that some of us were not as mentally prepared as we were physically prepared. On top of the usual moments of homesickness and tears, some children struggled to get organised. We made our own sandwiches to take to the slopes and were faced with having to learn the difference between turkey and ham or how to hold it all together, or what would taste good. In Bahrain many of us have home help like maids or at least our parents that prepare the majority of our food. Cooking is a hobby for us rather than a necessity, so even making sandwiches was new to some of us.
Preparation, Planning, Practice, Performance.
Preparation is the answer for me, I always arrange everything I need for the day, the night before. I don’t like being rushed and this suits me perfectly. Lots of us forgot things vital to our day, sunscreen, lip balm, even lunch! By the end of the week everyone had gotten in the flow and remembered everything they needed to have a great day.
Parents can tend to nag us about being responsible and really that doesn't work. Having us suffer the consequences, that works! We couldn't ski without the right gear – so we got it right, simple. If we don't remember the correct stuff for school, I don't think our parents should bring it in for us, we need to learn from our mistakes.
In a growing mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work; brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.
Falling is not Failure
This mindset really helped many of us learn to ski in just a few days. We were able to laugh at our mistakes and some were spectacular! Someone ended up in a tree, many of us fell over, fell off, fell down, fell backwards, fell on top of others - well you get the picture. What we all did was get back up and try again. Through bruises, tears and exhaustion, just to getting back up again is the greatest lesson.
So next time your tween asks you or another adult to do something they can easily manage themselves, remind them; the only people that fail are the ones that don't try. Everyone else is just learning.